(Imaginary conversation about parenting between the Current Me and my Younger Self) Current Me: Hey, are you ok? Younger Self: Um, yes I think so. I’m about to have my first baby and of course, am very excited and well, I just really want to do all the right things so I can have an […]
A lovely woman, a mother of three once told me,”We would love to adopt, but I worry it would be really hard on our kids”. (This is one of those cliches people say about adoption. Yes, really). How sad I was to hear her say this. Oh, please make your kid’s life hard in some […]
What does it mean to me that my son and I do not look alike, that we have ancestors from different continents? What does it mean that my son is a different race than I am? There are actually two answers to that question: It means everything and it means nothing at all. It means […]
We are a culture obsessed with awards, aren’t we? Participation trophies, annual certificates of appreciation, engraved plaques for most improved scout team player, whatever. We just can’t get enough of them. So I’ve decided to create an award. I mean, why not? All you have to do is declare the award exists and make an […]
We met our youngest son the way most extended family members do: Looking through a glass window in the hospital nursery. It was a surreal, out-of-body kind of experience and to make matters even worse, at that moment we did not know if he would actually become our son or not. At that moment, we […]
You who are struggling with infertility, you are dear to me. You hold a special place in my heart. All of us who have walked in your shoes are bonded by an invisible thread of knowing. Knowing an ache for a child who does not exist, except in our dreams. Perhaps there is no way […]
Our Story (How we got Thing One and Thing Two) We met in college, dated through undergrad and got married before graduate school. Coming from large families, we knew we wanted children. We loved kids and the idea of little ones running around. There was a big unknown, however. In my senior year of high […]